Anyway, I go through regular bouts of feeling like I'm not doing a great job at parenting. It's partly a personality thing (I often felt this way when I was a teacher), and partly because of the lack of tangible feedback - I won't really know if my efforts have paid off til my kids are grown up, in about 15 years time. (Maybe more if it's true that parenting is never finished, but let's keep it managable, shall we?)
the remaining fruit |
This evening I promised my 3 year old that he could have some mango if he sat on the toilet (yep, that exciting stage!). He got his mango cheeks, and after doing the dishes, I sucked on the seed, mostly just to clear the kitchen bench. That's when I had my flashback to what my mum used to do. I had always assumed that she preferred the seed to the cheeks, but now I know that it's just what mums instinctively do - give the best parts to their kids. It's a small success, but I'm hanging on to it - we all need something to keep us going each day, hey?
So, hopefully you can figure out your own 'mango test' which will help you realise that you may be doing a better job than you think, at whatever it is you're facing today.
Smelling the mangoes,
helen xox